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Lazy? No Way! Why Self-Compassion is the Ultimate Power Move

A concern that often pops up in conversations about self-compassion is the fear of getting too lazy and comfortable when we are compassionate to ourselves.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

We are followed by endless social media posts about leaving our comfort zone all of the time to achieve our goals.

And often people grow up in the belief, that they need to push and punish themselves 24/7 because this would fire up their motivation to achieve something, they want to achieve.

Yet, this can lead to burnout, low self-esteem, and even depression. It's not a sustainable or healthy way to approach life.

The problem I have with those things is, that many of us feel a constant underlying pressure to "have to" and "should" do stuff, we are not comfortable with, and if we don't, we are lazy losers. We begin to feel scared, insecure, and doubtful about ourselves, our abilities to cope with life, and our skills and strengths.

On the other hand, a lot of people mistake self-compassion for a "carte blanche" for laziness and mindless self-indulgence or plain weakness.

And so they either give in to letting themselves go on the sofa with ice cream and pizza or beat themselves up.

None of those views sound all too compassionate to my ears.

So if you're worried that practicing self-compassion means being lazy or giving up, rest assured that it's actually the opposite. By treating yourself with kindness and compassion, you'll be better equipped to tackle challenges, pursue your passions, and live a more fulfilling life. And here is why:

One of the most important aspects of self-compassion is all too often overlooked:

Self-compassion has the intention to want your best.

And so we could imagine 2 different sides to it,

like yin and yang.

The yin side of self-compassion can be imagined as a loving and caring mother, that nurtures and protects her babies in a warm, fluffy, and comforting environment, listening to their needs, and making them feel cared for and understood.

The yang side of self-compassion is the same mother, guiding her babies into the world, being protective, setting boundaries, and teaching them to become powerful and confident "out there in the wild". It is the side with motivation and inner fire, the drive.

Both sides exist in us at the same time.

The art is to find the balance between the two of them. Suppressing either side disrupts our well-being. When we begin to trust and recognize which side is needed at what moment, we can give more of that to ourselves. We learn to listen when our best is to take a rest and when our best is to become active.

This is self-compassion.

I am diving deep into the topic of self-compassion right now because I think it is still so overlooked and underestimated in value to our lives. In a society like the one we live in, where everything needs to be faster and better, and more optimized at any time, we need to remind ourselves, that none of that really matters. What really matters is our quality of life and self-compassion is an essential part of happiness and well-being.

I am working on a program for you if you want to learn and cultivate more self-compassion. When you are hard and mean a lot of the time to yourself, this could be something for you. Stay tuned.


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