Breaking out of a toxic relationship is never easy, but it's often the first step toward healing and finding happiness. However, before you can start on this journey, it's important to understand the first rule of breaking free from a toxic relationship. In this post, I'll share this crucial rule in-depth and provide practical tips for how to apply it to your own situation. By learning this rule and taking action on it, you can start to take control of your life and move towards a brighter, healthier future.
Just this one time you will check her social media.
Just this one time you will send her a message, explaining yourself,
wanting answers, some sort of understanding, some sort of closure.
Just this one time you listen to old voicemails or even call to hear her voice.
Just this one time you drive by her house and see if she is there.
Just this one time you hope for something even though you know you lie to yourself right now.
...This will be the last time....except it isn't.
Each time you give in you will make it even harder for yourself.
You crave every breadcrumb like you crave a drug. It feels like you would die without her. You believe you will never find someone who loves you as she did, and shares your dream as she did.
You are scared of being alone forever.
You don't want to see it just yet, you have had already what you are afraid of.
Your mind plays endless tricks on you. It tries to seduce you to reach out.
It tries to make you believe that this relationship was the best thing that ever happened to you.
You have invested so much, so much love, trust, time, energy, and money, it is impossible to give that up.
Not just yet.
Your emotional thinking is in overdrive, you feel like a gambler, just going this one last time to the casino, hoping that this time you will win.
You never win against the bank and you know it.
And you don't want to know it.
Right now you just want this pain to end, and it can only end with another hit, with another go at the slot machine.
Going "no contact" is one of the most painful, most difficult things you will have to go through when a toxic relationship has ended.
Some say it was the hardest thing they ever went through.
And yes, you read that right. It WAS.
You can get through this and you will come out on the other side stronger than ever.
Maintaining no contact is the most powerful thing you can do for yourself as you begin your recovery.
Once your mind clears you'll see the hollowness and flaws in even the " good times ".
You will begin to see that you confused your conditioning with love.
You will fully recognize what you have experienced and you will make sure, that this won't happen again.
It will be a bumpy road and it will be all worth it.
No contact gives you the distance you need to begin to really care about yourself.
You will free yourself of the poison that has infested your mind and body for too long.
You will free yourself from patterns that are even older than this relationship and have it enabled in the first place.
You will free yourself to become you.
Here is one strategy for you to take on board, in times, when sticking to your No-Contact Regime gets really hard and your emotional thinking takes over:
Keep all the messages you have exchanged for reference.
You will read them at one point and wonder, how you could have ever fallen for this.
Make a list of everything you remember was bad about your relationship.
List every time she lied to you, betrayed you, or cheated on you.
Every time she gaslit you, disrespected you, devalued you.
Every time you felt inferior, sad, depressed, anxious, jealous.
Every time she brought out the worst of you.
And every time you feel tempted to break the promise to yourself to stay out, read your list again.
You don't want this in your life, do you?
The Toxic Relationship Antidoteᵀᴹ is a program I developed to help men who recover from a toxic relationship. It is important for you because it will be with you all the steps on your way to reclaiming yourself and rebuilding your life on your terms.
You will learn to value yourself again,
learn to trust and love again. You will move from the position of victimhood back to one of self-love, confidence, joy, and happiness. Reclaim yourself and rebuild your life on your terms.
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