We all know how rejection can hurt.
It can ruin days or even weeks of our lives.
We doubt ourselves, we question everything, we feel stupid and incapable, too ugly, too something, or not enough of something else.
In order to avoid feeling this discomfort most people do everything they can just not to feel this way.
And sometimes the price they pay is very high.
They give up on themselves,
their uniqueness,
their careers,
their freedom.
They rather stay silent, invisible, and just blend in.
Now that doesn't sound like a perfect solution, does it?
Nobody can escape rejection. Everybody rejects someone or something and has been rejected at some point by someone.
So we need to find ways to better cope with it.
What if it wasn't that painful anymore?
What if this would give you the freedom to be and do more of what you want?
I invite you to play:
Set rejection goals, and start collecting them, with intent and consciously.
- Become aware that more often than not rejection is not as personal as we perceive it to be. It can happen for hundreds of different reasons and we don't need to wear the rejection-jacket.
- The more opportunities for rejection you create, the less they will hurt because you are expecting it to happen anyway, it's your goal, remember?
- And the more opportunities for rejection you create, the more opportunities you create.
Let's say you prepare yourself for 100 rejections in a year in different areas of your life, just for fun. Ask impossible things, make outrageous requests, whatever you fancy, and you know this thing will be rejected.
- I am sure, you will find they won't hurt as much,
- you save all the energy you would have wasted by avoiding rejection. (I can tell you, avoiding rejection is exhausting),
- you even get more confident because you move with grit out of your comfort zone.
- And as a bonus, you might just be baffled by acceptances along the way.
Take it from Samuel Beckett:
"Fail, fail again, fail better."
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